control-based parenting

Poop

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The librarian was like, “…so…are you potty training, or…?” And I was like, nah I just have a four-year-old who thinks poop is the actual funniest thing ever, so we’re leaning into it. 😁 I’m here to tell you right now, if you’ve heard the advice “don’t make a big deal out of it and … Read more

Corrections to Corrections

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Sometimes I get stuck in awkward situations with other adults where the other adult feels like they need to correct a child in some way that feels wrong to me. It might be exacerbated by my presence — like, for example, at a park when a parent is over-correcting what their kid is doing because … Read more

Say Hi

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My kid saw me through the open door of daycare. Her face lit up, my face lit up, we both did a wiggly happy dance to see each other. She over-exaggeratedly mouthed, “Hi Mummy!”, because she’s been experimenting with what kinds of nonverbal/nonspeaking communication will be understood—gestures, mouthing, pointing, etc. I over-exaggeratedly mouthed back, “Hi … Read more

“Not Letting” Them Whine

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This post has an audio and video recorded version for those who prefer to learn by hearing rather than by reading. Scroll to the bottom for the video of me reading it. Someone recently asked me, “I want my child to know that they can feel their full range of emotions without any emotion being … Read more